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Carolyn Hax: If you can’t stand the eats, get in the kitchen

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This weekend, he criticized my cooking to other people, then he complained his dinner wasn’t ready and stormed out to a drive-through. I was literally pulling a meal out of the oven for him, not me, when he left.

I think it’s time for me to stop cooking for him. Do I just stop? After 25 years? This is not the only lopsided deal I signed up for.

Anonymous: Which 50s are you in?

Yes, you stop. And, yes, Triscuits, cheese and wine are dinner.

If by “just” stop you mean quit without comment, then I’d advise against that; your husband’s recent foray into public shaming and tantrums notwithstanding, you two are in a marriage and owe each other mature status reports and chances to respond. If the point is to be punitive then you have bigger problems than dinner.

Don’t speak up to ask or justify, but only to

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